claire.she.goes

Category: Black like me

  • PSA: On Misogynoir

    PSA: On Misogynoir

    There’s a story behind this post. I just don’t feel like telling it right now.

    Certainly, if I ever do, I won’t mention any names. And I’ll likely obscure details, because those are no one’s business. That said:

    If you’re a Black woman, and another Black woman confronts you for being horrible to her, that’s not an example of misogynoir.

    Things are tough enough out here without having to face baseless accusations when you’re merely defending yourself.

    Image via Raphael Lovaski on Unsplash

  • On “Black Friends”

    Demetria just about covered it.

    I read a bunch of comments about Adele on Grammy night that were ridiculous. I swear. My eyes rolled so hard, it’s a wonder they didn’t fall out of my head.

    Then, I got introspective.

    What do you hear when someone uses the words “Black friends”?

    We live in an era where people are boldly, unapologetically racist. And I get it. The words “Black friends” have been used again and again (and AGAIN) by bigots when they’re straining to be polite. “No, Jay’s Blackness doesn’t bother me. I have PLENTY of Black friends…”

    But this isn’t that.

    Like it or not, the fact remains that folks have friends who are Black. People need to learn the difference between “Black friends” as condescending tokenism and its use as an accurate descriptor.