Tag: self care

  • Lose Your Likes

    Lose Your Likes

    After taking a huge social media break earlier this year, I thought I was making progress. I’d been a good girl. I had deleted the appropriate apps from my phone. If I absolutely had something to share, I’d found ways of posting that didn’t involve using my phone or spending time scrolling.

    And then, earlier this week I caught myself.

    I let myself loose on Twitter. Current events had set me off. I enjoyed myself, even if just a little.

    And yet…

    While scores of folks post fun, informative content, in the end I couldn’t help but see its negative side. That site can feel like an outrage factory. Not that there isn’t enough to be mad at these days—world wars, racism, Lisa LaFlamme getting fired for no reason

    In the end, it can feel a lot like information overload.

    And then sometimes I’d tweet, and start thinking about reactions, or a lack thereof. “Likes” mean that you’ve been heard, and what you’ve said resonates with others. A lack of them can feel lonely.

    This week, I had to ask myself exactly why that was.

    And this is what I heard back. “Lose your likes…”

    Or at least, your taste for them. I’d felt this before, but never so strongly. Don’t get me wrong. I’m thankful for recognition. Above all else, though, when you’re online, you need to remember that you are living in light of your purpose. And your drive to pursue your purpose needs to exist, whether you’re “seen” or not.

    I wasn’t the first one to say the following. But if likes make you, then they can truly break you. And the reason you were created is far stronger than that.

    As a writer, the world’s news and ideas can be inspiring. I can’t say I’ll stop using social media altogether. But I’m definitely reinvested in adopting a utilitarian approach to it. My mental health depends on it.


    Photo by Aman Pal on Unsplash

  • Don’t use news to abuse.

    I’ve tried to stay away from social media over the past several weeks. Although I click  on a tweet every now and then when I see it in an article, for the most part, I’ve succeeded. But a few days ago, I noticed that I’ve been drawn to something else. For, although I’ve tried to keep my distance from the Land of Likes, I’ve become a little too fond of my News app.

    Have you ever caught yourself doomscrolling for information on everything from the world’s wars to the weather?

    I have.

    The other day, I asked myself a few questions.

    My addiction to the news is an extension of my addiction to social media. What is being fed in my soul when I’m updating myself on the lives of all these people who have nothing to do with me? How is that actually helping me as an individual adult, alive, here and now?

    Newsflash: It’s not.

    Be careful out there. And above all, be kind to yourself.


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